Most of the children I see are brought to therapy by their parents. Teenagers often instigate therapy themselves. Some come to therapy due to a specific event, such as divorce, death of a loved one, or a disaster. Many parents seek help for their child because their situation has become very challenging at home or at school. Frequently, parents will say that their child’s behaviour has become intolerable. Their child might be having meltdowns, hitting other children, refusing to go to school, or fearful of trying new things. The mother of a 9-year-old boy who was struggling to start unfamiliar tasks told me that her son was “stubborn when he was in that zone.” Despite this focus on behaviour, many of my clients’ difficulties are the result of problems in the realm of relationships. Some behave aggressively because of deep feelings of rejection. Others talk as little as possible because they feel different from everyone else and are afraid to open up. Often, they have received the message that difficult feelings—like sadness and anger—are unacceptable, which makes it harder for them to fully experience their feelings and to express their feelings to others directly, causing a greater sense of isolation. Given this, one of my goals is to help each child to connect with themselves and their feelings through their relationship with me so that they can establish stronger connections with others.