Friendship
摘要
Friendship is, in my view, essential to the good life. This chapter looks at the life-long friendships in Toni Morrison’s Love and Elena Ferrante’s the Neapolitan Quartet. It also examines theoretical accounts given by Plato, Aristotle, Montaigne, Emerson, and bell hooks before turning to an autobiographical account: Thomas Bernhard’s Wittgenstein’s Nephew. As with love, friendships are shaped by the time and place we live. I am struck by Lorde’s account of her growing up. In middle school she was the only Black child in an otherwise all-white school. None of her classmates would befriend her. She had, at the time, no friends. Theories attempt to give us the truth in the abstract, but we inhabit bodies and communities. In the United States, as in many other places, the color of our skin goes a long way in determining our social worlds—so does the size of our bank account, our zip code, and the social status of our family. Fictional stories paint portraits of people in social worlds and therefore give us something that abstract theories often do not.