Familiar Affects and Policies: Mexican Families’ Emotional Experiences When LGBT Members Come Out
摘要
Coming out is a conflicting process for LGBTQ + youth that questions social and family values around sexuality, and of which little is known in Mexico. The supposed importance of coming out has been critically viewed by Latinx scholars who point out the importance of family complicity and the way it plays into sexual silence. Analyzing the lived experience of emotions may provide insight into social values and norms surrounding sexuality that shape family dynamics and structure.
MethodsIn-depth semi-structured interviews, carried out in 2017–2018, with nine middle-class families and 18 LGBTQ + middle-class young adults from different areas in Mexico City and its suburban areas, who had come out to their families during the previous year, were submitted to an interpretative-phenomenological analysis.
ResultsFive predominant emotions were identified: confusion, pain, fear, shame, and love that are embedded in each other and in family interaction, making emotional experiences unclear and challenging to put into words. Emotions created distance between the family and the LGBTQ + member and allowed for negative stereotypes of LGBTQ + issues to emerge, questioning the authenticity of that member’s place within the family.
ConclusionsComing out is a disputing process amongst Mexican families that question social values and norms that uphold family complicity, fundamental amongst Mexican contexts, and question cis-heterosexuality iterated by different social institutions, besides the family.
Policy implicationsSocial policy should focus on the centrality and complicity of family and the way these fundamental emotions play into them, while undermining forms of discrimination and violence against LGBTQ + youth.