Purpose <p>Existing research highlights how relationship ideologies and schemas can complicate help-seeking for victim-survivors of intimate partner violence (IPV). However, this perspective is largely absent in studies focusing on LGBTQ + victim-survivors. Available evidence indicates that similar schemas are relevant to LGBTQ + victim-survivors, particularly those that engender a sense of solidarity and relational loyalty with individuals who share experiences of stigma and marginalisation.</p> Methods <p>Structured life history interviews with (<i>N</i> = 29) LGBTQ + victim-survivors aged 19–79 years of age who reported recent (&lt; 2 years) or ongoing experiences of IPV. The narratives of 6 participants who discussed relational loyalty to their ex/-partners as a barrier to help-seeking form the core of this exploratory study.</p> Results <p>Participants perceived tensions between support needs and relational loyalties to perpetrators. Unlike heteropatriarchal love ideologies, which often underpin reluctance to report IPV in cisgender heterosexual relationships, the loyalties described by LGBTQ + victim-survivors were often shaped by a desire to protect abusive partners from potentially discriminatory or harmful institutional responses—particularly when those partners also belonged to marginalised communities. Participants also feared that seeking support through peer and community sources shared between themselves and their partners would jeopardize the latter’s ability to access support through these avenues. These concerns constrained the perceived viability of support options available to participants, influencing some to access non-optimal forms of support or eschew support all together.</p> Conclusions <p>Queer solidarity and relational loyalties between victim-survivors and perpetrators may be an important factor to consider when researching and designing interventions addressing IPV within LGBTQ + relationships and communities.</p>