Against Parental Devotion: On Power, Friendships, and Flourishing
摘要
Modern parenting is demanding. Parenting of this sort, given its demands, will tend to crowd out other aspects of our lives, including our other relationships. In this article, we raise a distinctive concern about the way in which modern intensive parenting crowds out other relationships. We argue that parenting, given current norms and family structures, is an unpromising site for our character development, and thus for our flourishing, because of the kind of power that parents exercise in the family and because of the context in which they exercise that power. Parents therefore have flourishing based reasons to pursue other relationships, notably friendship, which contributes in distinctive ways to our flourishing in the context of a relationship characterised by equality, not hierarchy. In making these arguments, the article both intervenes in the emerging literature on parental power and strengthens existing critiques of the prioritisation of romantic and familial bonds over and above other forms of relationship.