“We Accept You, One of Us”: Praise, Blame, and Group Management

Praise and blame can function to manage membership in informal social groups. We can be praised into groups, like if you remark on my good taste in music and invite me to have lunch with you. We can be blamed out of groups, like if I’m rude to your spouse and you stop inviting me to parties. These can move in the opposite direction, with praise removing you from a group and blame drawing you in. If we attend to the way praise and blame shape our social world, we can revisit some debates about the ethics of praise and blame with new eyes.