<p>German refugee policy, with its focus on “integration,” is experienced by my Iraqi Yezidi refugee interlocutors as a means of forced assimilation. This pressure to assimilate exists in tension with pressure within the Yezidi refugee community to maintain Yezidi practices to avoid ethnocide. In their intimate attachments, my Iraqi Yezidi interviewees imagine relationships with their spouses where they can accommodate some assimilation demands while contesting others. In doing so, my interviewees imagine how they might find the right partner with whom they can develop practices that will allow them to build good lives for themselves that honor the wishes of their families and communities. I argue that German efforts to cultivate particular attributes, values, and sentiments in its refugee population stem from the state’s concerns about <i>social</i> reproduction, which parallel a crisis in the Yezidi community about Yezidi <i>cultural</i> reproduction. By using social reproduction as a lens, I clarify the connections between love, marriage, and the family, on the one hand, and labor, citizenship, and political ideologies on the other.</p>