“Sexual sacrifice”: a qualitative exploration of husbands’ experience of living with survivors of breast cancer—sexual dysfunction in Malaysia

Experiencing sexual dysfunction (SD) alongside a breast cancer (BC) diagnosis has significant consequences, not only for wives but also for their husbands. Therefore, we explored husbands’ perspectives on sexuality and their encounters in dealing with wives’ SD following a BC diagnosis.

This qualitative study, conducted within the phenomenological framework, focused on sexually active husbands whose wives faced SD after being diagnosed with BC in Kelantan. Husbands with an International Index of Erectile Function (IIEF-5) score above 11, indicating the absence of erectile dysfunction, were invited to participate in in-depth interviews conducted between September 2019 and March 2021. The interviews were recorded and transcribed verbatim, and the transcriptions were then managed and analyzed using the NVivo® analytic computer software. Thematic analyses were performed, taking into account the meaning-making theory.

To grasp husbands’ experiences, three themes emerged. “Sex, a calming act,” delves into their understanding of sexuality and its impact severity. “Distressing sequelae yet provide better tolerance” underscores that husbands experienced adverse consequences due to their wives’ imperfections and sexual challenges, but they exhibited improved tolerance in dealing with these difficulties. Lastly, “Improving lives with multiple strategies” highlights how husbands sought alternative activities in response.

This study illuminates the experiences of husbands coping with their wives’ SD following a BC diagnosis. Husbands had to reconsider their understanding of sexuality and sexual needs and employed various response and coping strategies. These strategies included emphasizing influences of culture (husbands’ roles and rights), religious beliefs, and self-distraction, redirecting the focus to health concerns, and engaging in alternative activities.